Lesson 5: Handshake

Lesson 5: Handshake

Have a firm handshake. There is nothing worse than reaching out for a weak or dead fish handshake. Women might be told when they are girls to be gentle, but the handshake is an exception. A good sign of confidence is a firm, solid handshake. You will get noticed for being full of confidence.

  • Exercise 1: Ask family and friends: Ask family and friends to tell you what they think of your handshake. Is it too hard or too soft? Is your hand wet or dry? Use what they say to improve your handshake. Check whether you are using eye contact when you shake hands too; you should be!
  • Exercise 2: Do not hurt the other person's fingers: Have a strong handshake but do not crush the other person's fingers! A good handshake should not be painful.
  • Exercise 3: Have a dry hand: Make sure your hand is always dry when shaking hands. Quick tip for sweaty hands: Carry a portable instant hand sanitizer or instant hand sanitizing wipes (alcohol-based) in your purse to dry up any sweat on your hands, as needed. Alternatively, rinse your hands under cold water or clean your hands with a splash of alcohol.
  • Exercise 4: Show authority or superiority: Use the palm down handshake when you want to show authority or superiority. This means that your palm faces downward, toward the ground, when shaking hands. Or, if you want to let someone feel more powerful than you, do it the other way around so that the other person's palm faces downwards. This can be helpful in certain situations, like f.e. when you want your boss to feel more in control.
  • Exercise 5: Do the two-hand grab: If you are shaking hands with a person you already know, you can even do the two-hand grab. Put your free hand on the other person's elbow to show you feel close to them and are friendly.
  • Exercise 6: Practice: Practice your handshake on strangers or people at work. Your handshakes will become better as you practice more.
  • Exercise 7: Don't hold for too long: Do not hold the handshake too long though as it may seem strange to the other person.